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最近， 除了看一些平时看得‘闲书’。也在看一些dale Carnegie， Stephen Covey 的书。老哥极力推荐， 大概看不惯我对自己的人生‘不知所谓’吧-) . 不是想成为什么了不起的企业人才。 只想学习怎样有balanced, positive 的人生态度。。 我比较小的时候， 就已经有一位‘高人’和我说过‘没有人有义务让你快乐’。。 所以每一个人都应该， 自己去寻找， 去学习，去领悟， 让自己感觉幸福快乐的方式。。

其实这之前， 我是那种很抗拒这种类型的励志的teaching 的。虽然我其实没有参加过任何一种。 所以做人千万不能先入为主的。。看了一些， 我觉得真的有看远远好过没看， 真的是一些‘好料’来的。为什么我会'Buy' 他们的teaching.. i think, because i believe in their values. These are some intrinsic teaching and value from Covey and Carnegie, there are much more out there, these are simply some that really bought me over....

Covey's
- Never Compromise with honesty
- remember the people involved
- hear both side before judging
- be sincere yet decisive
- maintain a positive attiude
- keep a sense of humor
- do not fear mistakes- fear only the absense of creative, constructive, and corrective responses to those mistakes
- listen twice as much as you speak, etc

Carnegie's
- Smile
- be genuinely interested in others people
- give honest and sincere opinion
- dun fuss about trifles
- give the other person fine reputation to live up to
- Talk about your own mistakes before criticising other people's , etc

So, what they teach, are instead how to become a better person , a balanced and happier person, thus a 'successful' person...